If not for two motorcycle wrecks nearly five years apart, she would be celebrating the birth of her two sons — Spencer Warren and Shawn Warren.
Spencer was 34 years old and a Floyd County police officer when he died on June 21, 2007, in a motorcycle wreck at the intersection of Technology Parkway and Redmond Circle. He left behind three daughters.
On May 6, 2012, Shawn, an electrician, was also killed in a motorcycle crash on Horseleg Creek Road. He was 38 and left behind two children and a stepchild.
The two shared the same birthday. Spencer would be 40 today. Shawn would be 39.
She visited their graves on Saturday.
“My son, Shawn, had not been on a motorcycle in years,” Cole said. “I never would have believed God would have taken another child in the same way he took my first son.”
Cole was raised in church, to believe in a God that loves her and cares for her. But after the death of Spencer, she said she was angry.
But after Shawn’s death, she said God dealt with her.
“Do I blame God? No, I do not,” she said in a letter written about how she is going to get through today. “I believe God has a reason for everything that happens, and if nothing else, this has strengthened my faith in God. I know something good will come out of this terrible tragedy.”
Cole has found one purpose. She has urges everyone to use caution when riding motorcycles.
“Please be careful and use extreme caution,” she said. “Life is so uncertain but death is sure.”
Even though today is a day for grieving for Cole, she writes to encourage others.
“If you are living and breathing, your purpose has not been fulfilled,” Cole said. “No matter what you have done or what has been done to you, God does have a plan for your life.”
She relies on Jeremiah 29:11: “For I know the thoughts I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace and not evil, to give you an expected end.”
And as she worships at Community Chapel Baptist Church and comes home to a house without a birthday cake or celebration for her two sons, she will rely on her faith to get her through as she has done for the past five years.